'Bring Your Full Self to Work' (and Not Be a Jerk)
3 ways to respect boundaries *and* build real connection at work
My latest Psychology Today article takes on the idea that “bringing your full self to work” means bulldozing others’ boundaries. Whether you crave more authenticity at work or lean towards keeping things profesh, most of us agree on one thing: the need for better connection with those we work with. The piece explores how balancing authenticity with empathy creates connection—not discomfort—and why gently expanding your comfort zone with small talk is a gift to others.
TLDR: here’s 3 simple, actionable ways to foster that connection:
Reveal yourself, thoughtfully: Questions are great, but sometimes the easiest way to start a conversation is by sharing a little about yourself. Mention a new curiosity, something fun you did over the weekend, or even a favorite show you’re watching. Openness and vulnerability in thoughtful doses are contagious.
Ask follow-ups: The real value lies in the follow-up question. If someone mentions a hobby, ask to see pictures or hear more about it. These small gestures show genuine interest and let them know you value their fuller self.
Circle back: Remember what people share and check in later. Follow up about a vacation highlight or a kid’s softball game. The simple act of remembering can mean more than you think.
I’m so grateful for feedback—so bring it. This article was inspired by my pal Ash and the quick tips was a suggestion from Johnson! Thanks you both!