The 'Last Minute No Pressure'Invitation
The game-changing way to *actually* connect without guilt or stress
Ever feel like connecting with others gets lost in scheduling-Jenga and well-intentioned plans that never seem to materialize?
Enter “Last Minute No Pressure” (LMNP)—a simple way to reach out without the guilt of not planning ahead. Adding “LMNP” to an invitation focuses on the intention to connect, without overthinking. For example “I’m at X coffee shop the next couple hours, swing by if you’re free—LMNP!” They won’t always say yes, and that’s the point—LMNP lets people know you are thinking about them and opens the door to connect in real life.
My latest Psychology Today article explores LMNP and why we need it in this time of social isolation. Many of us have a New Year’s intention to connect more with others, so let go of elaborate plans and give LMNP a try. Maybe it’ll be become part of your vocabulary, too!
P.S. Here’s a few tips to get started from the article:
Start with what you’re doing anyway: A walk, coffee run, yoga class, or even errands. There’s something special about inviting someone to share everyday life with someone, rather than waiting for a "event."
Keep it simple: Choose flexible activities—potlucks, no-reservation restaurants, or “grab-your-own-ticket” events that scale easily and don’t rely on pre-planning.
Say “no pressure” and mean it: When it’s easy to say no, a yes becomes about more than obligation or pressure—it reflects a genuine, shared desire to connect.
Makes so much sense.